An American Marriage|My thought on love


An American marriage is a novel by the author Tayari Jones. It’s not her debut novel as she has written four other novels before this.


Newlyweds, Celestial and Roy, are the embodiment of both the American Dream and the New South. He is a young executive and she is artist on the brink of an exciting career. They are settling into the routine of their life together, when they are ripped apart by circumstances neither could have imagined. Roy is arrested and sentenced to twelve years for a crime Celestial knows he didn’t commit. Though fiercely independent, Celestial finds herself bereft and unmoored, taking comfort in Andre, her childhood friend, and best man at their wedding. As Roy’s time in prison passes, she is unable to hold on to the love that has been her center. After five years, Roy’s conviction is suddenly overturned, and he returns to Atlanta ready to resume their life together.


This is one novel that stirred my anger while I was reading it. Don’t get me wrong, it was a nice read and I enjoyed reading the book but the character of Celestial and Andre did good at getting on my nerves and I can boldly say that they were my least favourite characters.

At the beginning of the novel, my heart was still soft towards Celestial and I admired her and Roy’s (her husband) marriage even when he was wrongly accused and put in prison. Not until she did what she did and I took her from my good book to the bad one.


Reading An American marriage made me question the concept of Love. I believe in love and I believe that two people can fall in love and live together till death do them part but lately, watching some movies and then reading this book made me ponder if the word “love” still means the same in my generation like it used to be in my parents generation. Today, when someone says he or she loves you, is it really love or is it just convenience?

I’m watching a series The Resident and one of the Resident doctors, Devon, had a fiancee. From what we saw at the beginning of the series these two characters were in love. I mean, they said the “I love you” to each other so often and it wasn’t like their parents were forcing them to get married to each other. But then as the series progressed, this lady (forgotten her name) comes to work in the hospital. Devon and this lady get close and before you know it they’re kissing and Devon wants to call off the wedding with his fiancee.

In my mind I’m like, what’s happening?. This is a girl you just met like few weeks ago and you’re already thinking of calling off your wedding for her? Bro, do you even know what you’re doing? It really got to me because Devon is one of my favourites in that series and I didn’t want him to do something he’d regret. He did end up calling off the wedding on the wedding day. On the wedding day, bro! To me that was just shallow. He couldn’t have made up his mind two days or even a day to the wedding? Come on!

I also watched a Nigerian movie (can’t remember the title) and there was this guy who claimed he loved this girl. He kept telling the girl he loved her so much, he couldn’t do without her, yen, yen, yen. He even helped her end her relationship with her abusive boyfriend and was so caring to her. Not until the girl was set up and wrongly diagnosed of having HIV. Wait, what! Yup, HIV. She didn’t have it by the way, she had another sickness but not HIV.

This guy who claimed he loved her and could do anything for her all of a sudden became angry that she betrayed him. Betrayed, how? He didn’t even let the girl explain herself and just blacklisted her in his mind, telling her he regrets ever meeting her. Hold up, was this not the same guy who was all mushy mushy towards her? Or, is this his stunt double? If he truly loved her like he had claimed, his love was supposed to stand the test of time.

Your love shows when the person you claim to love is at their worst and not when things are all rosy. If not, what then is the point of your love?

That is why in the area of choosing a significant other one has to be really prayerful and also willing to hear what God has to say. Because most times when people are confused on who to choose and they pray, most times they already have made a decision. So if God says otherwise they decide whether they want to go with his decision or theirs and I believe this is what is causing a lot of break offs in marriages.

You see someone getting married this month and the next month, they’ve become stack enemies. It’s all so scary sometimes but, one thing I know is that, if you truly follow God’s way, he won’t give you the wrong person. If he hates divorce then I believe he won’t give you someone you’d end up wanting to divorce. Everything won’t be rosy rosy between you two but, your love will be able to stand the test of time.

We also recommend

No Comments

Leave a Reply