Feminism:wrong assumptions about it

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If you are among the people who roll their eyes and heave a sigh when the issue of feminism is raised then, I’m sorry you can’t sit with me.

Feminism is such a hated word in the world, most especially in African countries (Nigeria to be precise) where culture has clouded our sense of reasoning. Feminism is seen as a menace and it’s baffling that some women see it this way too. Like, we’re fighting for our rights sisters and you don’t want to support that? Wowww (in Luca Hall’s voice).

But,

what is this feminism that is creating so much fuss in the society all about? I stand to believe most people don’t know the meaning let alone understand what this movement is about and that is why there is so much controversy about it.

What is Feminism?

It is the belief that women should be allowed the same rights, power, and opportunities as men and be treated in the same way (Cambridge Dictionary).

What some women have to say about feminism?

“I’m always a little bit puzzled when any woman of whatever age, but particularly a young woman, says something like, ‘Well, I believe in equal rights but I’m not a feminist.’ Well, a feminist is by definition someone who believes in equal rights. I’m hoping that people will not be afraid to say, that doesn’t mean you hate men, it doesn’t mean you want to separate out the world, so you’re not a part of ordinary life—that’s not what it means at all! It just means that we believe that women have the same rights as men.” (Hilary Clinton)

“I didn’t see myself being held back until I was a woman—the double standards in the headlines, the double standards in the way stories are told, the double standards in the way things are perceived. … Misogyny is ingrained in people from the time they are born. So to me, feminism is probably the most important movement you could embrace, because it’s just basically another word for equality.” (Taylor Swift)

“Men think it’s a women’s word. But what it means is that you believe in equality, and if you stand for equality, then you’re a feminist. Sorry to tell you. You’re a feminist. You’re a feminist. That’s it.” (Emma Watson)

“I’ve always considered myself a feminist, although I was always afraid of that word because people put so much on it when, honestly, it’s very simple. It’s just a person that believes in equality for men and women. Men and women balance each other out, and we have to get to a point where we are comfortable with appreciating each other.” (Beyoncé)

Wrong assumptions about feminism

The most common assumption about feminism is that:

#feminists hate men

Feminists in no way hate men. Contrary to popular opinion, feminists love men. Take a look at some of the famous feminists like Chimamanda, Beyoncé, Hilary Clinton, among others. These women are married and yet feminists. So, I don’t see why people think that feminism is anti-men.

Feminists are not fighting the men. Feminists are fighting for the rights of women which is, giving them the same opportunities men are given. If a woman or a group of women hate men then, that’s their personal problem and not a feminist problem. Please let’s be guided and stop associating it with feminism. Thank you very much.

#feminism destroys family values

Feminism doesn’t destroy family values. In fact, I believe feminism has improved family values. The society has this image of what an ideal woman should be. She should be married, have children (preferably boys) and be able to keep her home in one peace. All this is good but, a woman is so much more than this. A woman wasn’t created to just marry and have children. No, I don’t believe that.

Feminists believe that a woman’s voice should be heard too. She shouldn’t be shut up and shoved aside just because she’s a woman or given a lesser job because she’s a woman. I don’t see how this is destroying family values.

#feminists are not religious

Honestly, I don’t see the correlation here. What has feminism got to do with being religious? Just because a woman is a feminist doesn’t mean she won’t submit to her husband if that’s the angle you’re looking at it. But at the same time, it doesn’t mean that a woman can’t oppose to what a man is saying if she doesn’t agree with it. I mean, you’re not God for crying out loud.

Feminists don’t argue with whose the head and whose not the head. Feminists agree that men are the head of the family but, that doesn’t mean women should be stupid and dogmatic. Once again, please let’s be guided.

#feminists can only be women

If you believe in the equality of the sexes then you’re a feminist regardless of gender. Don’t ever think feminism is a ‘girl’ thing and not join the movement because you think that way. That’s a very wrong assumption.

Moving forward…

We live in a society where the male gender is given more preference than the female gender and that’s why it irks me when women don’t support this feminist movement. I can only blame the society for this. The society has taught a girl right from birth that there’s a limit to what she can achieve. A big lie from the pit of hell.

I anticipate a time when feminism won’t be an issue anymore. When women won’t be looked down on and have to fight for their rights. I look forward to a world where all humans will be equal.

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What is your take on feminism? Are you for or against it?

1 Comment

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    Fadekemi
    October 23, 2019 at 11:47 pm

    Apt!

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